I think we both can agree that ever since becoming a mama, caring for ourselves has become a whole lot harder! Can you relate?
I remember when I was pregnant thinking that I would have this aspect of life covered. (I was pro at weekly face masks and maternity clothes shopping in my pregger months!) However, it wasn’t long until I had my son, realized he needed me every second of every day, and my self-care went out the window along with my face masks (and possibly my shaved legs).
The topic of moms not having enough time for themselves has turned into a joke, but to be quite honest, this really took a toll on the way I felt, postpartum, both mentally and physically. It was like I lost myself after giving birth. The green tea infused face masks…gone, the sexy underwear…gone, the 8 hours of sleep that I so desperately craved…DEFINITELY GONE.
With that, not knowing how to manage taking care of myself AND my baby lead me down a deeper rabbit hole of lack of care in other areas (working out, fueling my body, fueling my soul, etc.). I’m sure you feel similar, too!
The good news is, is that I have no bad news! It took me a good year to figure it out, but, I finally developed some strategies to make taking care of myself as a mama possible. Not just possible, ENJOYABLE!
I’m here today because I want to share them with you so you can enjoy self-care and motherhood too! The following part of this post is my top five self-care strategies that will, for sure, change your mom life!
Strategy #1: Diminish Your Expectations
Okay, diminishing your expectations sounds a bit harsh; maybe I should have worded that different. However, this is important!
By now, you have noticed that in your life, situations can feel out of control. That out of control feeling will most definitely get in the way of you fully caring for yourself. Here’s an example; you were looking forward to taking a bath as soon as your baby fell asleep, all day. He, instead, changed your plans and cried for hours because he was teething. You felt like not being able to give yourself self-care was out of your control, and in return, gave up.
It’s easy to give up. It’s easy to dive so far into the calls of motherhood that we drown in everyone else’s needs. However, you don’t have too.You can do both.
To be able to take care of yourself and take care of your family, you need to be in control of the actions you take. Therefore, this is when I tell you,
Self-care can come in many forms. When you diminish your expectations of how you think self-care should go, you are more apt to just do what feels good, at the time.
Mama, that’s the key! To do what feels good.
So, if you’re having a hard day with your little one and your planned bubble bath just is not going to happen, think to yourself, “what would feel good, RIGHT NOW, that I can do in my current situation”. Don’t be afraid to include your little one!
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Strategy #2: Make A List
Is your mommy-brain a bit all over the place, like mine is? Just being honest, here! This is why it is helpful to have a running list of things that you would count as self-care.
I know how silly that sounds! Why do you need a list of things you enjoy?
This list is not just a list of self-care actions, it is a list of SMALL, enjoyable things that you can do for yourself in the tiny moments of your life. Here is an example that will make all of this make more sense; your son’s asleep and you have 30 minutes of downtime. You look at your list of intentional actions that fill your cup up and instantly and easily realize that using this time to read your new book would make you feel cared for. You act on that right away.
Now, if you didn’t have that simple list, you most likely would have wasted time deciding what you should fill your 30 minutes of free time with, and before you would have known it, your baby would have been awake. Acting in those small moments right away, it makes a difference!
Remember, self-care doesn’t have to look like anything specific, so in times where your baby does wake up sooner than usual, (or other unaccounted for situations arise- story of a mama’s life, right?), pick something that you can do in the moment given.
It’s all about just doing it, no matter how messy it may look.
Creating Your List:
- First, create a space for you to write down your list. You can download my FREE Self-Care Strategy Maker , here, to make it super easy for you.
- Take a moment to pay attention to how you are feeling mentally & physically.
- Write down 5 different actions of self-care that sound fulfilling, enjoyable, and most importantly, doable, to you. Self-care doesn’t always happen alone, as a mom. So, make sure to include a couple actions that you can do with your kiddo(s). For example: I would write down “reading my new book” and “making my favorite smoothie”.
- Now that you have your list of possible self-care options, brainstorm some places in your life that they might fit. This will get you ahead of the game and encourage you to look forward to caring for yourself.